For Our Fathers

June is the month for Father's! Happy Father's Month!!

If you are a dad, thank you for giving your love and compassion to your family and all of our community.

If your not a dad, then you have a dad; or maybe a husband or son or brother who is a dad.

Dad's have a special task of supporting their families and loved ones but also our community. It is a bit different than us females as they are protectors.

This June, like this past May for Mothers, is more expansive than in the last years. With all the change and possible challenges/chaos that has been part of our lives the last years we are now here in a place that is radically different than in the past. We can say it's the same Father's Day but it's not. We are all different in many ways and with that comes possible growing pangs... which forgiveness helps to support.

Why forgiveness? Especially on such a special weekend.

The last few years have been challenging for our elderly more mature community and many of our mature fathers have passed which leaves a space for the younger fathers to fill in with their unique expression of maleness.

For us who are here to balance this change it gives us an opportunity to forgive our fathers and/or grandfathers for their passing as well as our sons and/or our grandsons for stepping into the unknown or not knowing and trying to fill in with their new unique masculine energy.

This is a perspective that is within my own life as my father passed in 2015 and now my brother is stepping up to the plate to support and protect in his unique way. It has taken a lot of forgiveness for not only me but also for my mom as well as my brother and all of our family. I am very grateful for my brother for his willingness to make this step as I am grateful for all the brothers, sons and grandsons who walk together in this way to protect us.

We are all finding our way as there is not an instructional manual on where we are right now but I can assure us both we all walk together and what touches you...touches me and forgiveness is how we arrive to our destination with less anxiety and stress.

We need our younger fathers to step up and we need to help them make this step together.

So, to make this Sunday the best Father's Day ever take some time to sit and look into this idea and reflect maybe outside in your back yard how this transition is occurring in your family and find a way to let it go of what is holding you or your family back.

Maybe write a letter to your father/grandfather who has passed sharing your feelings about their passing or a letter to your brother, son or grandson sharing what is a challenge for you with their filling their fathers place for your family. Then take that letter and burn carefully in the sunshine. This is one of my processes of letting go and you're welcome to borrow it and share it with anyone.

I hope this is helpful!

With Love,

Patricia